If you get that clammy and nervous feeling when you try to go all romantic, you are a normal guy. Don’t worry. Even guys who are “smoothies” get butterflies in their stomachs when it comes to romance. It helps to know that even the “lady killer” guys you know get nervous like that. The difference is that they hide it better than you do. It’s hard to say why guys get so edgy about this topic but it might be because girls naturally think in romantic terms. But for guys, being romantic is a learned skill.
But you can learn how to be romantic and how to know just exactly what the perfect thing to say is when the moments of romance are happening to you and your girl. And because you are thinking about it in advance, you will be prepared to say the right thing.
  First, think about the last romantic movie you saw. You were probably with your girl and the sweet talking guy on the screen always knew what to say to make the girl want to be all his. That movie was just an example of the many ways we have romantic thoughts and words around us all the time in movies, on TV shows and even on the romantic cards you buy for her. So to start building your list of romantic statements to learn from by writing down and learning some of the best lines from these the movies, poetry and other sources. You can even put them on cards so you can have a few with you on a date should the right moment come along.

  Getting prepared like this is not cheating at all. You don’t run around at your job or at school thinking romantic thoughts. So if you use your “cheat sheet” just to change your mode of behavior before seeing the girl you adore, that’s just a little trick of the trade that those smoothies know when they sweep girls off their feet with romantic talk. It doesn’t mean you are going to just repeat memorized lines to your gal. But your homework puts you in the right frame of mind.
You know those slick lover boys know the tricks of how to talk romantic talk to a girl so you deserve to know them too. The trick isn’t really a trick though because the best way to say romantic things is to speak from your heart. In fact, the last thing you want to do is just blindly repeat romantic words from your study notes hoping that will work. She will know you are faking it and it will not win her heart.
No, for you to give to your girl the gift of a very romantic thing to say, wait until what you want to say starts in your heart. Then express your feelings in a natural way, in the way you talk, not the way some song writer talks. Even if it isn’t as poetic or full of romance words, if it comes from your heart, it will touch her and it will be genuine.

  Girls have a natural feeling for when you are being real with them and when you are being phony. So by starting from your genuine feelings and letting them flow out in expressions of affection, admiration and romance, you will come up with the “right” thing to say and say it at the exactly right time. It’s like using “the force” from Star Wars. You will know how to do it right if you follow that inner voice.
The key is to recognize that thought when you have it buried inside and to have the courage to let it out. Yes, for a guy saying romantic things is all about courage. So often you have thought “Wow, she is so beautiful right now” but you don’t say it. Just as woman have an instinct for knowing honesty, men have one for keeping their real feelings to themselves. You have to overcome those feelings of hesitancy so you can speak your emotions of admiration, of love and even of sentimentality when they occur.
Maybe it will be that next time you and she are sharing an intimate moment and you feel all her affection coming your way that you want to stay in that moment forever. Don’t let that moment pass but somehow find the path between the feeling inside and your mouth. But when the words come out and you experience the explosion of loving from your girl, you may never want to stop this flow of romantic words you can give to your sweetheart.

  Finding the right thing to say inside is opposite from just learning how to say phrases that are romantic from the movies, love songs or other people. You have a bumper crop of romantic ideas in your heart that just have not let out yet. But once you train your mind and heart to let your sweetheart know your feelings and desires, you will naturally become a guy who can use romantic words with the best of them. But your romantic thoughts won’t just be empty phrases, they will be genuine expressions of real romance that you and your lover experience together.
Forgive one another. Forgiveness is a process of ending your anger or resentment towards another individual. It can have the power to transcend all offenses, great and small, and learning to forgive another takes patience, honesty, and respect. When given freely and sincerely in a relationship, forgiveness may heal relationships that are suffering. Forgiveness is an act of humility, not one of haughty feelings.
Be the first to tell your partner what is on your mind either positive or negative. Address what your plan is to remedy it. Playing guessing games may lead to misunderstanding and confusion.